If You Had the Chance, What Would You Do-Over?

I have spent quite a bit of time pondering over the thought if I had a do-over in life what would I choose.  The reality is, of course I have made many mistakes and decisions that I regret making but those choices have molded me into the person I am today.  I have hopefully learned from most of them and I can say that I as a result, I have learned to be less judgmental and more empathic to others going through similar situations.

Do I have purchases that I regret?  Absolutely!  Have I purchased an outfit and later regretted it, who hasn’t? For me, I will share a do-over that is more of a heavy nature but so near and dear to my heart.

The largest do-over for me would have to absolutely be not spending each and everyday with my Mother after she started to become ill.  You see, I lost my Mother April of last year.  She was the best Mother anyone could ask for, the most giving, generous person I have ever known in regards to giving of herself, she was my Best Friend.

Although we spent three to four days a week sharing some time, I would love for it to have been more.  My children are young but have vivid memories of their Nana.  I regret not recording the time we spent together for them to see now, to look back on to see how excited and how much she truly cherished each and every moment she spent with them.

Adalynne was not two yet, but remembers sitting in the chair at Nana’s house playing a Nemo memory game with Nana every day we went to her house.  To this day when we visit Pappy, she goes to where the game was, pulls it out and sits in Nana’s chair.  I love that she still has that memory!

My son Austin had a special bond with my Mother as she kept him while I worked full-time until he was 15 1/2 months.  When we went to the grocery store, he would sit with her on the automatic chair and reach for the items on the shelf for her.  He loves to grab coupons out of the machines even today to save for Nana.  He knows he will see her again and how happy she will be by his stash of coupons he has collected for her!

Loosing my Mother has made such a huge impact on my life, as it is for anyone that looses a loved one.  I never thought that before I turned 30, I would lose a parent.  I miss her and not being able to share all the little things of life with her.  She would get so much joy out of her five grand-children now and how much they have grown.  It has given me an even more focused perspective on life, just how quickly it can change and how short it is.

My Parents and All Their Children

They say hindsight is 20-20 and of course it is easy to say now, “I wish”!  If I could hand in a do-over card it would have to be to have spent more time with my Mother.  I can’t change the past but can use my experience to mold the future.  Now I try to focus each day on my family and how truly special they are.  We can’t repeat the time we have so we need to make it count.

Now we can have do-overs with other situations and decisions in life but some we can save by doing it right the first time.  From your friends at Frigidare:  The Frigidaire Gallery™Dishwasher gets dishes fully cleaned the first time, so there are no dish do-overs. Nearly half of adults admit to re-washing and/or re-drying dishes after the dishwasher cycle has been completed. To prevent dishwasher do-overs, Frigidaire® is stepping in with its new Gallery® Dishwasher featuring the OrbitCleanTM Wash Arm, ensuring dishes are cleaned right the first time.

 

I was compensated for this post as a member of Clever Girls Collective. All the opinions expressed here are my own.

10 thoughts on “If You Had the Chance, What Would You Do-Over?”

  1. I lost my mom just after my 30th birthday and just before my wedding. She was very ill with addiction and there are times when I think I could have done more to help her. I know in my heart that I actually did a whole lot more than I give myself credit for, but there are times when I wonder what she would have thought about my husband, my son, and my life. We are coming up on the 5th anniversary of her death and I miss her so much.

    1. Janet-I am so sorry for your loss! My Mother had a very rare form of MS but no matter how the loss occurred, it is still such a difficult thing to face.

  2. Also, I am so sorry for your loss. I am thankful to still have both my parents and cannot imagine how difficult this has been for you. 🙂

    1. I am so sorry for your loss! My Mother turned 50 and my parents celebrated their 31st wedding anniversary the month before she passed away. I truly feel for you!

  3. I was just at a funeral this Saturday, you’re definitely reminded of how fragile life is and how quickly a loved one can be taken from us. She’s watching over you, you have a guardian angel now. I’m sure she know how much you loved her.

  4. I can definitely relate to this! There are many times, especially as we come up on the one year anniversary of my sister’s death, when I wish I could do a few things over. There was a stretch of time when we didn’t talk and I wish we could have that time back!

  5. This is a beautifully written post! It sounds as though you and your mother had a special bond that I am sure will continue even though she isn’t here anymore.

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